14. Reject Criticism
Criticism is not a bad thing. Absolutely no one is perfect. Getting feedback from your peers means that they feel you're worth their time and that you can improve. You don't have to follow every piece of advice, but at least give your critics some time and thought.
15. Buy Your Relationships
Money is no substitution for the time and mutual respect that it takes to build quality friendships. When it comes to finding friends, building friendships, and deciding who your true friends are, leave money out of the equation.
16. Follow the Rules
If you live life entirely on the straight and narrow, you’re allowing the man to tell you what you can do and how you should do it. Life should be lived more recklessly. You will never suck all the marrow out of life by following the rules. Instead, you will be uninteresting and never do anything worth talking about after you're gone.
17. Be a Control Freak
You cannot control your life. You can control your outlook, but the things that happen to you are often beyond your control. Don't try to take charge of every little thing. Learn to go with the flow and feel your stress levels deplete.
18. Don't Look People in the Eyes
Eye contact is fundamental to both personal and professional relationships. A lack of eye contact leaves the impression that you don't believe you are worth talking to. If you don't think anyone has a reason to get to know you, then you cannot expect others to go out of their way to find one.
19. Avoid Mistakes
No one has ever become wildly successful by making no mistakes. Taking risks and making mistakes is the route to discovering where the right path lies and what doesn't work. Embrace pitfalls and roadblocks as natural barriers that bring you ever closer to your dreams.
20. Don't Love
When people betray your trust, it is easy to close your heart and become a cold person. Make it your goal to never stop loving people no matter how often you get hurt. Love is the key that will unlock the door to a life of warmth and purpose. Remember that the only love you keep is the love you give away.
21. Think Happiness is a Destination
Happiness is a direction and an ongoing process. Happiness comes when you are content with the person you are, while still continuing to grow and pursue the person you want to be. Follow the items on this list, and you'll find that happiness was closer than you ever thought possible.
No one is perfect, and I am certainly guilty of some of the items on this list. The point is to look at yourself and know that you can be happier and live a better quality life. You deserve it, so start working on it. Make your life the experience that you always hoped it would be.
7. Don’t Make New Friends
One of the worst decisions you can make is to spend time exclusively with friends from high school or by yourself. College is a new and exciting place where you are surrounded by unfamiliar people. You can view these people as strangers or potential friends. I promise that the latter will make you a much happier and more comfortable person.
8. Fight Your Enemies
Enemies are something you create for yourself. They do not have to exist. Creating enemies and holding grudges gives power over your life to someone else. Keep the power where it belongs. Make friends, not enemies.
9. Don’t Listen
You do not know everything. In fact, you don’t even know an iota of what’s out there. The people around you can teach you a lot about life and ultimately make you a happier person. Open your mind to what they have to say rather than letting your arrogance plug your ears.
10. Lie to People
Whether you enjoy manipulating people or simply think it's fun to lie, lying a damaging habit that can quickly become an addiction. Don't forget the old saying, The truth will set you free.
11. Don`t Ask for Help
Life is hard. After all, it kills you.
If you are someone who is reluctant to ask for help in a time of need, you need to swallow your pride. Take the attitude that we're all in this together, rather than its you against the world. Ask your friends for help or advice, or use Students QA service and they may surprise you with wisdom and generosity.
12. Don't Exercise
Exercise is crucial to maintaining physical and mental health. The Freshman 15 is not a myth, but you can avoid it by committing to some type of physical activity a few times a week.
13. Treat People Like Assets
The people around you are living, breathing human beings. When you start thinking of them in terms of how they can benefit you, you are dooming yourself to a lonely and unfulfilled life. Remember this golden rule. Use things, not people. Love people, not things.
Part 3 is my next post!
College is a time when you should be loving life.
Still, some college kids are unhappy, and most have no idea why.
The other day, I was blessed to happen upon an outstanding article by Dragos Roua entitled 100 Ways to Screw Up Your Life. I decided to write my own article based off of his and outline some common failures among college students.
These are 21 mistakes made by college students that lead to a poor quality of life and a lack of fulfillment.
1. Live with Regrets
The past is the past. We cannot change it. No matter how much we wish that it would have gone differently, it is beyond our control. Do not fret over what could have been. Instead, be thankful for the way things are.
2. Lack Gratitude
This ties in well with number one. Do not be spiteful and pessimistic towards your life’s circumstances. Count your blessings often and remember to be thankful for the people who love you.
3. Be Controlled by Addiction
Whether it be an addiction to a person, or an addiction to video games, succumbing to addiction is a fast way to leave yourself powerless in your own life. Remember, you always have a choice, and people are always there to help you if you ask for it.
4. Victimize Yourself
Go ahead and feel sorry for yourself. Complain about how much life sucks for you. I promise that everything will continue to go poorly. Stop making excuses and pretending that you are so helpless and unlucky. Make your own luck and face life’s challenges confidently.
5. Forget to Play
Don’t lose touch with your inner 8-year-old. Play is free. Remind yourself to laugh and to not take life too seriously. An all-business attitude all the time builds unhealthy levels of stress and hurts your relationships.
Gossip is destructive and should be left for immature middle school kids. Gossiping is a fast way to destroy your relationships, tarnish your social reputation, and compromise your values.